Taking Back Control Over Our Thoughts

admin • 2 April 2022

​​What are thoughts?

This might seem like a simple question but chances are you have never really thought of it. Most people don’t. Before I became a mental health therapist, I didn’t either. 

I assumed that thoughts were facts. I assumed that thoughts were always true. I assumed that I always had to listen to my thoughts. I assumed that my thoughts had the power over me. I assumed that there was nothing I could do about my thoughts. 

Needless to say, I was wrong. 

So what are thoughts? Thoughts are really just ideas or opinions. They are NOT facts. They are NOT always true. Thoughts can change day to day, even moment to moment. 

On average, we have approx 40 thoughts each minute; that’s more than 55,000 thoughts a day!! 

This number may sound overwhelming but luckily we are not always aware of our thoughts. Instead, most of us are aware of and focus only on our negative thoughts…those thoughts that tell us “I am not good enough”, “I cant do it”, “I will fail” or “I am a horrible person”.

Sound familiar?

Many people experience the same audiotape that continues to play over and over, day after day, with the same negative thoughts and self-doubts. The worst part is, if we are not aware of them, these negative (and often untrue) thoughts can start to impact who we are, how we feel about ourselves, our emotions and our behaviours, in an unhealthy way!

What can you do about it?

Well, the first step is to  increase your awareness  about the thoughts that you are having.

The second step is to separate the  opinions  from the  facts .

​Then, we can begin to challenge those thoughts and replace them with healthier and more realistic thoughts. 

Want to learn more?

Want to increase the power you have over your thoughts? 

Want to take back control over your life?

Book an appointment with one of our therapists today!

 
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